"God uses all things for good" - even csa intended for evil eg it's made me more compassionate, built a capacity to persevere
Suffering brings perfection" - in recovery God builds character
Endure in faith
Focus on being cleansed by Jesus
Focus on the restoration of our manhood
discover the childhood that we missed out on
regain the capacity to relate and live today
discover the power of God's love - which casts out fear.
open our hearts to Jesus
by taking down our walls in His presence and to invite Him in.
Things To Do
acknowledge it was put there buy without our permission
refuse to internalise it
ask and trust the Lord Jesus Christ to break it's power
it was the sin of the abuser - not our sin
one does not repent of some one elses sin.
lets explore more about renouncing other's sin against us.
understanding the nature of abuse, trespass and offence.
determine who is responsable then forgive on that basis
renounce any and all shame of the abuser he or she laid on us
receive Christ's redemption and thence our salvation.
The need for a theology of recovery: In seeking to find steps to recovery from csa I have been constantly frustrated by the church generally being locked into a theology of sin with its ingredients of - sin, confession, repentance, forgiveness and restitution.
This one sided theology has caused the church to focus on the needs of the abuser at the expense of other obligations which include:
duty of care to the congregation, especially safety of children
pastoral care of the wounded, the abused.
setting boundaries for the congregation
protecting the sheep from the wolves.
Developing a Theology of Recovery:
identifying the needs of those sinned against
searching the scriptures for teaching on recovery ministry
Psalm 23 - He restores my soul.
Isaiah 61 - He heals the broken hearted.
He sets the prisoners free.
Loving our neighbour- the Good Samaritain rescued the robed man.
he washed him, bandaged him, transported him and provided a place to shelter, be fed and rest.
Jesus taught about the shepherd who left 99 sheep in the shelter of the fold to go out and rescue the 1 lost sheep. The shepherd rescued the wounded sheep and carried him home.
"By His stripes we are healed" that icludes being healed from csa.
there is more to come because Jesus is our answer.